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Unrealistic Goal Setting Leads to Feeling Disheartened with Life

March 14, 2013 By Alex Gellman

Check in and listen and believe in yourself. Do you need balancing, fine turning or a full transformation?


Once again I became perturbed in yoga class, found my focus on movement and flow disrupted because the instructor made comments such as:

“May this day be the first day of your new life” and

“May you walk away from all regrets and move forward with only success”.

These comments are meant to inspire, but they are generalizations

Take each day one by one, be patient with yourself. Remember the old saying: Rome was not built in a day. Examine if you are creating blocks that keep you from achieving your dreams.

directed at a small number of depressed people – people who even on a sunny day are discouraged, feel like failures and see the glass half empty, and aren’t likely to show up to yoga class anyway.
Yet we all have goals we haven’t met, but we shouldn’t view unmet goals as failures. The fault lies more with the goal itself being unrealistic, perhaps because the timeline for accomplishing it was too short, or no action steps for achieving the goal were outlined, let alone followed.

Here are 5 “SMART” tips for setting realistic, achievable goals. They’re just as significant as the first time you heard them but they bear repeating because we get distracted, forget and maybe dwell too much on perceived failures that are no such thing.

Make your goals:

1.     S – Specific and Significant to you (not what your mother or your partner wants for you).

2.     M – Measurable with Meaningful steps. (Small steps are fine – and probably realistic!)

3.     A – Attainable by Actions for which you are ACCOUNTABLE. (Be realistic!)

4.     R  – Rewarding – because the outcome is Relevant to you (- again, not necessarily to your mother).

5.     T – Time-bound – ie “by X date next Tuesday at 2:30p.m…”

Another smart tip for goal setting is to share your goal with someone else and enlist their help to keep you “honest”. If you’re really serious, consider hiring a life coach.  I have had tremendous success  building self esteem in young and older women who had a history of abuse both in childhood and in past romantic relationships. It is wonderful to start to see them stand up for themselves and make healthier choices regarding relationships and food, and making self care a priority.

Take our Stress Age Assessment and find out how old you really are based on contributing factors such as healthy lifestyle habits, life stressors and family genetics.

Filed Under: Heart Felt Emotions, Uncategorized

alex-gellman Alex Gellman HOM, PHD

HOM, PhD, Homeopath, Holistic Nutritionist, and Iridologist with a PhD in Integrative Medicine, Alex has effectively facilitated the health and wellness of patients since 1981.

She is a certified facilitator of MBTi (Myers Briggs Type Indicator) that she uses in coaching to improve lines of communication.

She has presented at conferences and at the University of Toronto Research Symposium on the results of a successful 6-month study on the effects of those suffering from Fibromyalgia.

The author of three lifestyle wellness manuals, Alex also created the stress age biological assessment featured in the Wall Street Journal. She has appeared on a variety of health and wellness television shows and has hosted wellness retreats in Sedona and Niagara


 David Gellman Rabbi - DAVID GELLMAN

Over 30 years of experience in transforming the lives of individuals, families, and corporations, as a spiritual leader, Rabbi, Accountant and a Registered Behavioral Coach.

Rabbi Gellman holds ongoing workshops to offer guidance in achieving a life balance and in making spirituality a principle part of life.

His teaching style combines a wealth of knowledge with coaching skills to ignite people to achieve their dreams.

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